How to Love a Girl?

大家好，今天在這邊想要探討自己的愛情觀。

但我也不是上帝，也會和女友吵架，時常也有不理智的情況。

因此以下的觀點是一種理想化狀態，我也時常勉勵自己要做到最好...^^

(另外以下的見解皆根據我的頭腦與醫學雜誌，如需用於自身，請自行斟酌。)

Hello Everybody, I want to share my "Concept of Love" with everyone.

I am not saint, so I fight with girlfriend sometimes, too. My sensible line broke always...

So this article is the Idealized state that I encouraged myself to follow!!

(All of this opinion is from my life and medicine magazine, Maybe not suit and be agreed by everyone^^)

It's difficult, Because boy and girl have different conformation.

　　研究顯示：女性罹患憂鬱症的機率比男生高出40% (您可以自行爬文，有太多研究與論述證實)。而在我的生活周遭，卻也血淋淋的證實了這個跡象，她們多半是被感情、家庭所困惑。由於女性賀爾蒙的影響，女生在經前、產後、更年期時易受到情緒所影響，產生出：易怒、焦慮甚至幻想等症狀，變得極為敏感。身為男朋友的我，時常不經意的也連帶受到情緒影響，明明是簡單的彼此溝通，卻變得非常困難...

Studies showed girl is more 40% chance to get hypochondria than boy, and this prove through my really live. Some of my women friends they get hypochondria cause by the bed relationship, family. Effect by the hormone, girl have a sensitive body which become more easy angry & anxious and illusion. these effect usually advance before periods, after childbirth, in menopause. As a boyfriend, the "Effect" influence me carelessly, chat with her become very unhappy & freezing now...

Love is so difficult, can you tell me what is Love?

　　到底最終是女性荷爾蒙、情緒讓愛變得困難？還是原本彼此之間就存在著問題？我想先暫時放下這些源頭猜測，而探討愛是什麼？對我來說，我喜歡引用聖經(我不是一位虔誠的基督徒)：「愛是恆久忍耐，又有恩慈；愛是不嫉妒，愛是不自誇不張狂，不做害羞的事，不求自己的益處，不輕易發怒，不計算人家的惡，不喜歡不義只喜歡真理；凡事包容，凡事相信，凡事盼望，凡事忍耐，愛是永不止息。」

　　當我在本質上懷疑到底什麼是愛時，我總是告訴自己：「能為她付出，就是一種幸福。」這種付出並不限於實物，可能是陪伴，可能是傾聽。因為她未來將會是我的一部份。我必須好好照顧與呵護她。

What happen to Love? Why so difficult to love you? , Is cause by Hormone or emotion? Maybe our love have the original problem? My opinion is: Discuss what is "Love Essence" first, not find the issue...For me, I like quote the bible: Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.

When I doubt about love's essence, I always tell myself : "PAYING for her is the happiness thing in the world". this donate not limit to really material object, you can accompany with her and listen she say everything. Because she will be a part of you in the future, so you must take good care of her and be more patient!!

I know it's hard to keep the conscious, just do you Best and Best!

　　我知道爭吵時很難保持清醒，但你要知道：「家不是你講道理的地方。」也許最好的方式是從源頭做一個根本性的認識，根本性的改變將讓你更有修養，家庭更圓滿。退一步海闊天空！

I know it is hard to stay clear & conscious when quarreling, but you know that "You can't get any sense at home". Maybe the true way to prevent fight & get happiness are: "Have a basic knowledge of love", which let you get good self-cultivation and accomplishment.

　　因為她愛你，所以她才會容易對你生氣。

　　因為她把你當作自己人，所以對妳和對外人的方式、口氣會很不一樣。

　　因為她正在成長，所以要多一點耐心與呵護，就像種花一樣。

　　因為她是你的一部份。

　　Because she love you, So she easy be mad to you.

　　Because She is under growing, need to more patience & take good care. Everything like you grow plants.

　　Because She is part of you.

　　　To My Love WeiRu. This article is a memorandum & opinion.

cchuang