Unresolved issues
*There are two areas of unresolved issues which can have a negative impact on relationships, though when handled well they contribute to personal growth and increased relationship quality, says Dr. Brenner. First, take steps to keep paranoia from destroying your relationship. One type involve issues stemming from a time before the two people met. "These are emotional problems often relating to intimacy in their family of origin or prior romantic relationships which are getting in the way," he says. *
"A prime example is having been cheated on in past relationships which can lead to suspicion and difficulty with trust and intimacy." The other are problems in the current relationship, which happened earlier on, but were not properly addressed, so they are still causing issues. "An example of this is when a couple broke up in the past and got back together, but never fully addressed the underlying reasons for the breakup," Dr. Brenner says. "This continues to harbor concerns about both the stability of the relationship, as well as the reliability of the other person."