“Loving yourself isn’t vanity; it’s sanity.” —Katrina Mayer
Waking up in the morning with a purpose is one of the best mornings. Knowing you have a reason to wake up makes it more meaning meaningful.
It is like smiling after you open your eyes knowing that you've got another chance with life. It is like waking up knowing that there is someone that you want to be happy with, someone you look forward to seeing or speaking with. It is like knowing that there'll be someone who will always hold your hand no matter what. However, some people wake up just because they have to wake up. Just because they have to earn some money. Just because it is what is expected from them. There's a big difference between waking up with a purpose and waking up just because. And for me, making yourself your main purpose in life should be your main reason to wake up. You don't need anyone else to be your reason or to be your inspiration. You are ENOUGH reason to wake up, to be inspired.
Love yourself first before loving other people.
No one in this world can love you the way you love yourself. The way you prioritize yourself. You have to do this for yourself as to not seek the attention of the people around you or from the people who you think love you. Expecting something from other people will only give you disappointment. And one of the best ways to avoid it is for you to love yourself more.
Sometimes we expect too much from our family, from our friends, from the people around us and we forget that it is not right to depend on them too much. That it is not right to expect more from them. That it is not right to rely on them too much. Know that they have their own priority and it's okay, and if ever you are not included in their priorities, it's still okay because you cannot force other people or family members to include you in their priorities or in their plans. You cannot expect other people to give you the attention that you want. That is why you have to love yourself more.
Self-love is not being selfish.
You have to prioritize yourself. You have to make yourself happy first before anyone else and it is not selfish. It only means that you value yourself more. It only means that you are not waiting for other people to give you the love that you need.
Loving yourself more doesn't mean that your love for other people is lessened. It doesn't mean that you don't love your family anymore. What I'm trying to say is if you give one hundred percent to your family, try changing that and give yourself at least half of that one hundred percent. Parents will always understand if you can't give more especially if you are giving it to yourself. And if your parents already left to be in that special place where we can't visit them, it's more reason for you to look after yourself. Your siblings will always be there for you BUT you will never be their priority. You only got yourself who will prioritize yourself, and it's not being selfish.
Not giving them so much because you have to have your own is much more important than giving more to them, besides, you cannot give something that you don't have. That is why you have to fill yourself first. And that is also why taking care of yourself is not being selfish, you are only giving yourself something that you don't have, and something that you don't have to wait for other people to give you.
Self-love isn't selfish. It is important.
Always look after yourself.
Buy the medicines that you need. Buy the clothes that you want. Buy that bag that you've been eyeing for some time now. Buy that food that you've been craving for days. Because no one will buy it for you, especially if you are not a kid anymore, especially if you are earning your own money.
It is your responsibility to yourself to buy everything that you need, to buy all the stuff that you want. Never ever disregard your own needs just because you are supporting someone or a family. Why? Because not all the people you are supporting will look after you. Some will not even ask if you are doing ok. They will not even care if you have the things that you need for yourself. Because they are also focused on what they need and on what you can give them. Some may not have the means to share something with you. That is a reality that no matter how you deny that it is not true, it is true, it is really true. You cannot rely on other people, you can only rely upon yourself when it comes to your needs.
These are just some of the reasons why you have to love yourself. As you grow in life you will learn that prioritizing yourself is not being selfish. That it's okay to give but you also have to save some for yourself. Be there for other people but be sure that you are also there for yourself. That you can love yourself as much as you love the people around you. It took me some time and a whole damn of heartaches to realize this but it is okay because in life there is never too late to discover and learn something new. And definitely, there is no such thing as too late to start loving yourself more.
This is also note to myself as there are still times that i forgot to look after myself.
This is my entry to the Silver Bloggers Blog of the month #BOM and because it's the love month, I add the community as my beneficiary as my way of thanking you for being a wonderful people.
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February 16, 2022