I did not understand the concept until about a month ago, when I enrolled my little girl Solangelis at school. My little girl tells me in the most natural way, like every child, she tells me: "Mommy, I have a little friend who is a boy"; What? I was surprised, of course ... Coming from a small 6 year old, leaves a lot to think about.
I did not understand the concept until about a month ago, when I enrolled my little girl Solangelis at school. My little girl tells me in the most natural way, like every child, she tells me: "Mommy, I have a little friend who is a boy"; What? I was surprised, of course ... Coming from a small 6 year old, leaves a lot to think about.
After a few days, my girl continues talking about her little friend, to tell me that her little friend had "pee" ... I could not take it anymore and the next day I accompanied Solangelis to the classroom to talk to the teacher and meet the friend ... No they are going to believe, well, yes, my daughter's little friend is a child, not forgiveness, she's a trans…
What concept? I find myself as a migrant in a country where children have the right to be girls ... What confusion ... That would never have occurred to me in Venezuela, where "machismo" is the tradition.
These last two weeks have been enriching, getting used to this new culture, as an immigrant in Argentina ... These last two weeks have taught me: "there are girls born in men's bodies".
Leia, is the name of that beautiful girl friend of my daughter, is a "trans girl", that is, her body is man, but her soul is a woman; and it is true. The feelings, the charisma, the face and all Leia, is a woman.
"Being a trans girl is not an impediment to being happy," Leia told me sweetly. Femininity is courage and that courage changes the story. How my way of seeing the world has changed. With love and simplicity everything is possible, because the most valuable struggle of people is to reach and celebrate their right to be ..., simply BE.
"So you cut her hair, so you reinforce male thoughts, she will still be a woman ...". Leia's mom told me.
I want to transcribe is the message that is found in the entrance to the Trans Child Care Office, here in Argentina:
"Birds born in a cage believe that flying is a disease"
Alejandro Jodorowsky
Precisely, that happens to us, we were born in a culture where since we are in the womb of our mothers, we are bombarded with messages directed to submission for being a girl and machismo if the echo reveals that it is a male. How wrong I was…
Quote the conclusion made by Prof. Zonder Ramírez @amigoponc, at the end of his post Pink children vs Blue girls.:
"From childhood, gender differences are dogmatized, to the point of turning them into stereotypes."
One thing is biological identity, another is sexual identity and quite another is the identity of the soul.
This is the translation and adaptation of my post in Spanish that is here