In honor of Mother's Day, the @motherhood community team has challenged moms of hive to share their motherhood journey and write about their experience as moms, the good,the normal, and the ugly. The community also celebrates her 3rd anniversary in the hive; overall, the month of May has been an amazing one for the motherhood community. So let's see this part of my journey as a mom.
My last baby and I
It's been my 8-year journey through motherhood. It comes with lots of packages: the beautiful experience, the sweet joy from my adorable kids, and of course, the ugly experience. Motherhood is a responsibility; sometimes it looks complicated, but it is one of the most unique experiences in the life of every woman. It has been a journey of love mixed with other challenging experiences with my three treasures, Favor, Manual, and Jessy. These 8 years have also been a learning process for me as a mom.
After my marriage, I didn't plan to get pregnant immediately. I had wanted to learn more about what I was about to face as a mother. I read some books on pregnancy and became a bit afraid, so I wanted to wait a bit, but somehow I conceived along the way. As a first-time mom, I didn't have the adequate information I needed, which contributed to the complications I had in my first pregnancy. I was supposed to give birth to twin boys. The joyful experience I had with the ultrasound I did was later cut short when I had an emergency cesarean section and gave both to a premature baby, losing one of the twin boys.
My first baby was premature.
This is him at 8 years old.
I went through a lot with the stress that comes with premature babies, but I never nursed the idea of giving up. Here we are today. It was a rocky path nurturing him until this level, and he is still counting.
Loosing one of my babies during my first pregnancy was one of the most ugly experiences I have had as a mom, aside from the series of health challenges I have encountered with the same first son, but in everything, I see it as a phase that comes and goes, and we are alive to grab other awesome experiences that come with motherhood.
During my second pregnancy and my third, I knew better, even though it was still a cesarean section delivery for all of them. But I had added a lot of knowledge about motherhood and delivery, so it became a bit easier for me to handle. However, I must admit to the fact that I feared entering the theater those three times, but they are all my life story now.
The normal experience of being a mom is having my kids behave in a manner I wouldn't want, and I will keep correcting them and teaching them how to be responsible children. It is not good to fight with each other. Why they shouldn't lie, etc. These are normal experiences every mom would have on this journey.
Having my three kids in my life has brought a lot of joy. The more they express their love for mummy, the more I feel loved, and I feel fulfilled seeing them excel in school. My son, who showed interest in musical instruments, I got him enrolled in it, and he has been doing well. Getting them to do chores with me in the kitchen has been another good experience I love as well as praying together daily. I make sure to be involved fully and give them maximum support in any activities around their lives, such as their birthdays, school activities and church programs, inter-house sports, Christmas parties, etc.
There have also been days of anxiety and happiness. This is what motherhood is all about. No one can have a rosy experience all through with the children, but the love that exists between us and the kids always helps to persevere through moments. I have been inspired by other moms, and likewise, with my children, I keep learning new experiences from them all.
I can say that the bad aspect of the motherhood journey isn't much compared to the numerous good experiences with our children. The bad time is usually a temporary phase, but the joyful experiences with the kids are immeasurable. The period of nurturing makes most moms creative, including me, and I tell you that it's all a good experience.
I have made mistakes in the past as a mom, but I learned from my mistakes and kept seeking ways to be a better mom to my kids and a good wife to my husband; better way to guide them rightly and become a proud mom. I have three kids, and I am not planning on having another baby. I have tasted and seen that motherhood comes with lots of responsibilities. Creative quality time to nurture these souls until they become adults is a big task, but you know what? I am in for it.
Thanks for taking your time to read part of my story of my motherhood journey.
Much appreciated!
Please note; all pictures are mine