Today, I am going to talk about a rather exciting topic, or at least in a special area, that is how to bear the silence. What do we think of when suddenly nothing fills the space, when there is no noise, when we don't talk to each other? How much tension can be caused? This question may not be grasped for the first time, but what I am thinking of is for example, why people are using mobile phones next to each other, when they sit down to have a conversation. Why is it that they have to look at what events have happened in the World. Why is it that they watch the activities of the other tables, when the conversation is suddenly interrupted. So how did this stimulus flooding into our lives?
This is a fact that this intense stimulus we get from everywhere rises the threshold, that the stimuli needs to reach to interest us. I noticed this just by watching series and movies, that something has to happen in every minute to get someone to be addicted let's say to a particular series. In colours in tones and in terms of all the elements of the content, there must be something that holds the interest up and regarding this, we are so accustomed to a quantity that there is a lot needs to be there to always experience something new.
It can be said in almost all aspects of life. In relationships for instance. Time has changed when it comes to dating compared to a few years ago, when we went to a bar and looked out for a potential boy or girl. Nowadays we can browse and choose amongst hundreds of thousands of people online. What I mean by saying this, is new things comes to us all the time and we feel overwhelmed and we cannot imagine how it feels when there is nothing new under the Sun.
This is the reason why a couple can struggle with their conversation. When there is nothing to talk about they have something to turn to, to keep themselves occupied. It can be a mobile phone for example and that awkward moment what the silence causes, will be carried away in just a moment. It also seems like they have something important to sort out and they don't recognise this situation as a problem. The problem is with this, they don't realise that they just have created a distance between themselves.
The bottom line is, they are afraid of the silence, if they cannot find a topic to talk about. However if we think about it, the silence in a conversation can be a good thing, because it can bring up so many things that our partner would not tell us. If you start asking questions, the conversation can easily turn into kind of an interview which can be boring, but if you are patient enough to wait in the silence and let your partner gathering their thoughts, they can tell you their most emotional or intimate things, that they would not do it otherwise. So be patient and have a higher quality and more intense conversation instead of a boring and hollow one.