Parenting/interacting with children is a journey of the soul. Anyone who has been blessed to be in the presence of a child will know that they see right through you.  They will look deep into your soul and make you face yourself.  If you dare to take the challenge, your relationships and your entire life will be forever changed!    

Children are very raw and real.  

They tell you like it is.  

They show you how they feel.  

That is, unless we squash the realness out of them.   



You see, it's really isn't about raising them to be acceptable to society,

it's about honoring their being.  

We are on a soul journey together.   

We can make it what we want.   

Why not make it easy, fluid, enjoyable and juici-licous?  

Why not really bask in their presence here on this planet,

and tune into the evolution they so freely share?

"There is always a solution."  @quinneaker

We all know that children learn from their environment.  They mimic what they experience. So the first thing we can do to guide them, is to take a long hard look at ourselves as parents/caregivers and set an amazing example.  

The truth is, children are mirrors of their parents and caregivers, especially when they are young, carrying around the energetics of the generations before.  When our children behave in ways we do not like, instead of acting to discipline or correct them, it is wise to first check our own behavior, and see what it is we are instilling in them.  

Whether they are acting needy, whiney, aggressive, selfish, messy, noisy, or rude (...) -- they are likely just taking on our energetics, and showing us the truth about ourselves.  It is sometimes difficult to see how we have/are contributing to the situation, but if we take the opportunity to honestly look within, we can change the pattern before it becomes a long-term issue.

" The results are the experiences you have provided for them.  It's not justifiable or honorable to be blaming them."  @quinneaker

Let’s take a scenario, for example:  Say your child seems to be needy, always wanting your attention, to be held, to be the center of everything, to be first, noticed, recognized or acknowledged, or interrupts, is demanding or bossy to get what he wants.  

HERE ARE A FEW THINGS YOU CAN DO:

1. Be thankful!  Acknowledge that he is your mirror and is giving you the gift of conscious engagement.  It’s a blessing!
   
   
2. Stop what you’re doing and give him your undivided attention!  Some parents might say that the child is manipulating them with the needy behavior and therefore don’t want to give it any attention.  The trick is to be in tune with the child and notice when those feelings are coming up, nipping it in the bud BEFORE it really turns into something. Nothing is more important than helping your child feel secure and cared for.  Often times he just wants a few moments of your time to reconnect, to feel he matters, and to get a bit of loving.  The more he feels he can count on you to be there when he feels he needs you, the less likely he is to have to make a big deal of getting your attention.  If he doesn't get your attention right away, he will likely escalate his behavior to get your attention and make sure you notice him.  Noticing him after he has amplified the behavior, then gets him your attention and validates his behavior.  Sometimes children/people feel  negative attention is better than no attention at all.
   
   
3. Be honest with yourself!  Meditate on the situation to see if you feel the same inside.  Are you feeling that you need more attention, more affection, more assistance, or to be given more time or recognition?  Or perhaps you have a need to be needed to boost your own value and self worth. If you are needy, he will pick up on that quickly and show you your own behaviors.
   
   
4. Communicate with your child!  Share with your child your own feelings, acknowledging that you too feel the same at times, and talk about what you can both do to get your needs met. Children often have great solutions, so asking their input can not only diffuse the neediness, but can also lead to a better outcome overall.
   
   
   

"There is a way to have a healthy, beneficial, ideal outcome.  
Always ask how can it be done better?" @quinneaker

Dare we take the challenge for our own sake--
for the children’s sake--
for the sake of the future of mankind ???

I live at the @gardenofeden in Texas, where children are honored as divine beings.  The vision of a responsible and empowered existence is being exemplified everyday, a truly joyous and extraordinary life based on the founder @quinneaker's infinite perspective.  Learn more about life in our sustainable community:  My Introduce Myself Post:  The Profound Nature of a Conscious Life--Living in Community

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