Child education with ease and fun -

a plea for more looseness and confidence in the gut feeling in dealing with children

Parenting is a deadly thing and requires a lot of effort and effort. This belief hangs in many minds and quickly leads to a doggedness that nullifies any fun factor in education. It is not that difficult to lead our children through life with ease and joy.

Laxity and sometimes just let five be the basic ingredients of a parenting, which (also) fun. Parents should also rely on their own competence. Instead of focusing on problems and conflicts, serenity in education ensures that children and parents alike feel better. With an educational style that is less focused on perfectionism than empathy and humor, the child is taught new values - that is, that life is beautiful and mainly fun.

Education and humor - how does that fit together?

If you can laugh at yourself, you also allow yourself to make mistakes. They happen anyway, especially when it comes to parenting. Everything does not always go right, sometimes different ways have to be tried out to give the child what he wants. If an educational attempt turns out exactly in the wrong direction, the ability to look at yourself with humor helps not to take your own error too hard. And if the parents take it lightly, then the child will follow suit. Corrections are in most cases quite easy, because children are flexible and therefore always ready to change direction.

Not difficult, but different!

Many parents today feel that education has become much more difficult than it used to be. This purely subjective impression stems from the fact that our values and guidelines have changed. Education is different than before - but since we ourselves have often been educated in the "old" style, this change seems to us to be a difficulty. If we see it as an opportunity, not only will our child benefit from it. We too as parents learn to do so, gradually change our thinking and acting and gradually go through life with more ease.

The gut feeling is right!

Especially parents who deal with educational theory to do everything right, often forget one of the most important guidebooks in education: The gut feeling. Anyone who feels uncomfortable about what he teaches his child should at least pause briefly. What's going on there? Where do parenting claims and feelings not match? Those who occasionally ask these questions become increasingly confident in responding appropriately and authentically. The boundaries are set where it makes sense from the personal situation and not in places that theoretical education counselors suggest. It also means that once parents set their own needs, when it comes to setting a limit - or not.

Children need authentic parents

One of the worst situations for children is when inner and outer truths do not match. This is the case, for example, when parents are already outraged with anger but still talk to the child in an overly friendly and controlled manner. It would be authentic to express one's own feelings - without, of course, really letting all control go. Children need honesty and cope with it. Likewise, they often cope with clear instructions much better than when these instructions are wrapped in polite requests that almost demand to contradict.

We want the best for our children, but forget too easily that parenting is not a "project" that needs to be carried out in an optimistic way. There is no failure in this sense, but always new approaches to prepare our children for the world and explain their lives. This is the parental task, which can be fulfilled more relaxed for everyone with a little more ease and a lower demand for perfection.