Present Point of Attraction
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Birthday Intermission
When Q and I got together, he had been playing World of Warcraft video games (WOW) for a year for 16-20 hours a day. My son had also been playing a lot of video games that year (though not that much) so I felt I knew a bit about the head space he was in----focused!!! Quinn is quite extreme in his passions. When he goes into something, he goes in full-on. WOW was no exception!
I never attempted to pull him away from his games, interrupt him, make him feel guilty for choosing moments with his game over me, or judge him for doing what he wanted to do. I could feel his intensity and dedication to this passion. I was grateful to receive so many incredible moments with him. I benefited so much from Quinn’s focus, for when I became his point of focus--even for a split moment’s glance across the room---I was REALLY the point of his focus!
Many people had ideas about Quinn playing video games.
How could a guy so capable of so much be wasting his life in a room behind a screen?
Quinn’s experiences were already vast,
especially for a man just now approaching his mid 20s--here's a few:
Living in the woods of Alaska with nothing but a knife
Becoming an up and coming high fashion model in L.A.
Developing himself into a body-builder, health expert and nutrition specialist
Living homeless by his own choice (which only a few understood and fewer admired)
Traveled extensively through the U.S. and abroad, mostly backpacking and hitchhiking
Sat in meditation for 4 years, attaining his full-life awakening as an enlightened Being
Quinn had developed some really badass skills through his full-on immersion in WOW. (He later began dictating a book which I transcribed called “How a Video Game Changed My Life and Awakened the Genius Within.) His experience in playing the game to his fullest intensity without guilt or shame was an incredible gift. I believe his ability to manage so many detailed, fast paced, cutting-edge, revolutionary realities at the same time are partially because of the challenges he faced playing WOW.
You can read my posts about gaming here:
- Parent of a Gamer (part 1):
@everlove/parent-of-a-gamer-what-s-really-going-on-in-there - Parent of a Gamer (part 2);
@everlove/parent-of-a-gamer-part-ii
Engaging our late night cyber rendezvous and acting on our magnetic attraction, Quinn’s immersion in WOW began to dwindle. He basically left the game to come play with me which I fully realized was an incredible honor considering the importance he had given this game for an entire year.
I was overjoyed to be his new point of attraction, spending more and more time together with late night piggy-back-riding walks, viewing some UFC action and indulging late night snacks with his brother, massaging each other endlessly, creating culinary delights and simply BEing. Though there was no denying this was going somewhere as it had extreme momentum and neither of us about to stop it, we let it unfold organically without trying to make it into something or giving it a label.
Quinn’s ability to change focus and redirect his attention to what is important in the moment is quite impressive. He embraces change instead of resisting it, which gave rise to so many fulfilling and extraordinary experiences for him already. There’s never a dull moment in Quinn’s vortex. Life moves rapidly!!
I learned I would have to embrace change too and face my fears. In the knowing that anything was possible, I had not only to bask in the amazingness of the moment with him, but also acknowledge that the possibility also existed that I end up like that WOW game, left behind for the next new point of attraction. Having known that anything is possible, I chose to keep my focus on living for the moment.
Exciting! Challenging! Imperative!
And just for the record, though Quinn soon quit WOW altogether (for some years anyway), I was also simultaneously aware that Quinn didn't lose his love for the game. Indeed all of the benefits, joys and upgrades it had brought to his life were still with him and being amplified. Love goes on!
I’ll see you on the journey toward Unconditional Love!
Stay Tuned for Part 12
